aDiLLa-Z

Assalamu’alaikum and Hi,

Hmm…

I’m not really in the mood to post anything this week but since I’ve promised to update my blog every weekend, here…guess I could share my despair with my silent reader.

Last Friday was the Academic Day for the schools which I’m temporarily teaching. Together with me on that day was a senior teacher who was supposed to help me during the parents-teacher session, but in turn up that she helped me half way. Owh well, nothing for me to grudge as I feel much comfortable to do things on my own.

While the senior teacher was with me in the class that morning, we had a teacher chat where we talked about the students, the school, the system and etc. and among all that we talked about, the story of a girl who was and is still abuse by her dad had caught and dragged me to despair… till today. Huh.

I hate violence.

Very ‘fortunately’ to say, the girl is one of my year 4 students. She has been abused my her dad since she was 9 years old, that was when the school realized she was abused, perhaps her father has  started to abuse her since she was much younger. Well, things like abusing don’t really start in a day. It is build through time.

Perhaps one would wonder, had she really been abused or was it only one of the ways that her dad uses to discipline her. Well, why don’t you smart readers tell me whether it is abuse or teaching, when a father hits her daughter till it leaves the petite with swollen body and bruises…bruises in shapes of a buckle. And it happens every now and then.

Well, I would call that child abuse since he is hurting his child badly!! I would understand that there are parents who may hit their children because they want to discipline them but, could it be that hard? Well, why don’t you try to hit yourself first..till you have the shape of a buckle on your body. Hitting is the last resort! It was never the first.

I am no one good in the field of teaching a child nor am I good in being a parent, because I am not yet one, neither am I a dummy who knows nothing about this. Hmm.. Islam provides us with guidelines about everything which includes parenting. And as far as I am concerned, Islam has never taught parents to hit their children as hard they want. Hitting is the last resort and hitting is not just about hitting. There are guidelines as on how and where to hit too. Hmmpphh…

I remember once, I read something about Lukman Al-Hakim, a person whom his name was even mentioned in the Holy Quran. Once he used to say,“ Pukulan bapa ke atas anaknya bagaikan air menyiram tanaman”, (since I have the material it BM, I would prefer to keep it in BM). “…bagaikan air menyiram tanaman” which means the conduct of a father towards his child should flourish the child into someone good, not harming the child, because it is all about teaching and it was never about losing temper. Hmmpphh..

It hurts me when I hear children being hurt…and even more painful when one of them is my student who is almost the same age as my little sister. Speechless + sakit hati!

May everyone learn to love children more everyday. May we protect them from harm, because there is no one better than US.

“…
Pray to God He hears you

Where did I go wrong,
I lost a friend

Somewhere along in the bitterness

And I would have stayed up with you all night

Had I known how to save a life

How to save a life

How to save a life”

~ by adilla-z on June 22, 2008.